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Sex & Relationships Lesson Plans

When it comes to relationships and the choice about whether or not to have sex, teens face many different questions. Whether it's a question related to sexting, communication with a partner, or how to talk with their parents, teens need guidance around this important topic.  The lesson plans below provide a great supplement to any classroom.

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Like Mother, Like Son? (Lesson)
Communication about sexuality can sometimes be difficult for teens and their parents. This interactive lesson is a way to get those conversations going by asking students to reflect on what messages they received from their parents, peers, religion, culture and media and concludes with students interviewing a parent.

Length: 100 minutes

Lesson Objectives
By the end of this lesson students will:
1) List one message they have received about sex from four different sources.
2) Discuss what impact those messages have on their sexual decision-making skills.

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Is Sexting Okay? (Lesson)
Sexting is a topic that shouldn't be ignored. While some students may not have considered the speed of digital communication or the unexpected outcomes of sending messages through digital means it is an action that cannot be reversed. This lesson helps students consider their values and provides strategies to aid them in clarifying the implications of sending sexual content via technology by having students represent different audiences including parents of the sender and receiver, teacher or principal, friend or crush, Facebook audience and others.

Length: 50 minutes

Lesson Objectives
By the end of this lesson students will:
1) Comprehend the speed of digital communication among groups of people.
2) Compare and contrast the desired outcomes of a decision versus the unexpected outcomes.
3) Determine one's personal values related to sharing personal or intimate images using a cell phone or other electronic device.
4) Create a list of strategies for avoiding negative outcomes of decisions involving electronic communication.

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Here's the Situation (Lesson)
Teens grapple with tough decisions and situations regularly which demonstrates the need to discuss how to make good choices in a relationship. This lesson tackles cheating, dealing with sexual pressures, coming out, and pregnancy options. The lesson uses the scenarios from the article to help students practice picking out the choice that might result in the best result. Each student gets to practice voting on, discussing and generating alternative options while exploring their their value systems.

Length: 50 minutes

Lesson Objectives
By the end of this lesson students will:
1) Evaluate a set of scenarios and determine which is healthiest.
2) Compare and contrast a set of choice.
3) Create an individualized decision plan for dealing with a sexual pressure scenario.

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What I Believe (Lesson)
This values clarification lesson helps students look at sensitive issues in a very concrete way. Students will enjoy not only hearing a variety of different values on issues such as timing of sex, abortion, birth control, and LGB orientations, but will be able to identify their own values and recognize issues that they would want to discuss in a relationship.

Length: 50 minutes

Lesson Objectives
By the end of this lesson students will:
1) Explain a variety of values relating to timing of sex; abortion; birth control; and lesbian, gay and bisexual (LGB) orientations.
2)Assess similarities and differences when presented with sexuality values.
3) Infer the implications of having similar or different values from a relationship partner.
4) Formulate a recommendation for two people who have not yet discussed their differing values related to sexuality.

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What's Your Game Plan? (Lesson)
Teens experience many emotions and face many decisions when in a relationship. They might not have considered how they will handle these emotions and decisions when faced with them. This lesson helps students to consider their "game plan" for navigating emotional and physical intimacy with a partner. The board game structure brings to life the many aspects of sexual decision making in a way that is fun for learners.

Length: 50 minutes

Lesson Objectives
By the end of this lesson students will:
1) Develop a personalized relationship plan that reflects their values.
2) Identify personal limits for various sexual behaviors with a partner.
3) Explain the relationship between their values about emotional intimacy and various forms of partnered sexual behavior.

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Choosing Abstinence After You've Already Had Sex (Lesson)
Teens may feel after they have sex that they can no longer abstain. This lesson underscores the reality that teens may choose to have sex but later change their minds. The lesson gives permission for teens to rethink their decisions to be sexually active without judgment or shame.

Length: 50 minutes

Lesson Objectives
By the end of this lesson students will
1) Develop a personalized relationship plan that reflects their values.
2) Identify personal limits for various sexual behaviors with a partner.
3) Explain the relationship between their values about emotional intimacy and various forms of partnered sexual behavior.

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When I Was a Teenager (Lesson)
Teens may feel like their parents just do not understand what it is like to be a teen. The messages teens receive and the pressure they feel regarding sex and relationships feels like something unique that parents do not understand. This two-day lesson begins with an article about a son and his dad exploring the generational similarities and difference of sexual messages they received.

Length: 60 minutes

Lesson Objectives
By the end of this lesson students will:
1) Describe at least two ways that being a teen now is similar to and different from being a teen in prior decades.
2) List at least two messages about sexuality they learned from the trusted adult they interviewed for this activity.
3) Articulate who the biggest influence is on teens' sexual decision-making through a brainstorm activity.

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The Virginity Question (Lesson)
Terms like virginity, sexually active and abstinence are used frequently, but does everyone share the same definitions? This lesson explores labels and terms and how they fit, or do not fit,in real life.

Length: 80 minutes

Lesson Objectives
At the end fo this session students will:
1) Define the word "virgin."
2) Describe at least three situations in which the label of virgin may be problematic for teens.

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Breaking the Ice (Lesson)
Do you find it tough to start difficult conversations about sexuality? This lesson tackles the hard to cover topics--how to ask someone out, how to tell your partner you are not a virgin, how to tell your partner what you are ready (or not ready) for sexually, how to tell your parents you are pregnant or that your girlfriend is pregnant and how to tell your partner that you have an STD.

Length: 80 minutes

Lesson Objectives
At the end of this lesson students will:
1) Describe at least three strategies to initiate difficult conversations.
2) List at least three topics related to sexuality that teens can find difficult to talk about.

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Draw The Line (Lesson)
Young people often find it difficult to develop boundaries in a relationship and it can be difficult to help them develop the communication skills needed for this to occur. This lesson will help students develop clear verbal communication and listening skills in order to develop boundaries and support healthy relationships.

Length: 50 minutes

Lesson Objectives
By the end of this lesson students will be able to:
1) Define at least five specific boundaries that people may have for intimate behaviors.
2) Identify at least two effective strategies for communicating personal boundaries to friends and partners.

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Where Do You Stand on Premarital Sex?


In this lesson students will examine their own values on whether or not they want to wait until marriage or a lifelong commitment to engage in sexual behaviors. Students will also examine why someone may choose differently than they would. Through group discussion, journaling and role-playing students come to form their own values around deciding when to engage in sexual behaviors and learn to respect the values of others.

Learning Objectives

At the completion of this lesson, students will be able to
  1. List three reasons why someone might decide to wait until marriage or a lifelong commitment to engage in sexual behaviors.
  2. List three reasons why someone might decide not to wait until marriage or a lifelong commitment to engage in sexual behaviors.
  3. Identify at least two personal reasons why they might or might not wait until marriage or a lifelong commitment to engage in sexual behaviors.
  4. Demonstrate through role-playing with a partner the ability to communicate and discuss reasons why someone might decide to wait or not wait.
National Sexuality Education Standards Addressed

HR.12.IC.2 Demonstrate effective ways to communicate personal boundaries as they relate to intimacy and sexual behavior.

Time needed: 50 minutes

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Sex Ed Censored in the States


Often, teens aren't given a voice in the conversation about what sexuality education should look like. This lesson focuses on students sharing their sex ed experiences, as well as encouraging them to explore which topics they would like to see covered in their ideal version of sexuality education. Students will also learn how to access accurate information on sexuality and sexual health outside of the classroom.

Learning Objectives

At the completion of this lesson, students will be able to
  1. Identify three of their own opinions and values about sexuality education topics.
  2. Communicate four topics in sexuality education that are critical for teens to know.
  3. Compare their current sexuality education to their ideal sexuality education.
  4. List three ways teens can access accurate information about sexuality.
National Sexuality Education Standards Addressed

PS.8.ADV.1 Advocate for safe environments that encourage dignified and respectful treatment of everyone.
ID.12.ADV.1 Advocate for school policies and programs that promote dignity and respect for all.

Time needed: 50 minutes

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